Wednesday, June 16, 2010

---Marriage trifles 101

My phone beeped while I was sipping the strawberry iced bubba and everytime I get an sms, I'm a bit anxious,my fear of absences notifications from my reps are always there. I feel like peeping the name on the screen all the time. It's midafternoon, and I'm sure they have hit the sack by this time, so yes it wasnt from any of my team. I couldn't help mentioning the 6% absenteeism rate caused by an attriting agent.,anyway lets start.


This was yesterday.

As I opened my inbox, I already have a guess of what the sender has to say. She, being one whom I have handled in the team for the longest time recounts her commiserate life. On her message,it tells of how much she couldn't handle their break up. He found another woman, to replace her after him realizing that she was not all worth it. This feeling kinda snap a past from me. I want to isolate my personal dilemma I have had, but hey I couldn't help it, that is where I'm supposed to draw the basis of advises anyway, sans selfish gratification and revenge. During the time they were still harbored in the team, their relationship has always been grinding on and off. Mostly, extended families ruins the unity of what they developed, the love that they have slowly nurtured, and yet the foundation was weak. I can only speak of what is told. There are unspeakable private incidents they hide for sure,and I know its no longer required to give directions. They have got a one year daughter, of which I'm godmothering and given the child her name too. so I play a vital role at least. He wants to leave them and take life without the family. And one thing for sure, that's unstoppable. The more that you really beg them to stay to keep the family together, the greater this people think that their relationship, the forbidden love is an absolute just in their blinded crooked eyes. I’m blatantly saying that what gives them urge to move on with the "you-and-i-forever-no-matter-what" relationship is all influenced by none other than Ms. Lust. The seven deadly sin is starting to wreak havoc again, sadly.


I gave her several sms exchanges telling her to give them up, stop wallowing and begging to him to come back or even to the effing girl to stop chasing my freaking husband....coz they WON’T. They are in complete state of euphoria, and walk across burning charcoals triumphantly as they leave two defenseless individuals in pain. She can bawl out as loud as she can..if it would help her ease the pain. "TC, I want to make revenge." Oh yeah I felt that too.The sight of that lascivious woman,tied over hot hinges screaming for help, while you guffaw watching as she suffers. A filmstrip in my my mind I've always wanted to direct,but hey it isnt healthy. Im always telling myself that it can never undo anything.So end of conversation, I told her to accept what happened and move on. I know she may not follow it but that is the best thing to do, momentarily, no matter how she rebuts the thought.-end.


This is today.

While updating the blog, FB, checking work emails even if being on a 5-day leave means also segregating work and home duties., he suddenly popped out of my FB chat.I saw him liking my status, 56 seconds ago and I was very tempted to post something that implies their current plight...but I feel like I'm breaking the trust she told me to stand unaware of their break-up.So I didnt. After a few hi's and hello's, and some pleasantries, he suddenly opened up about it., so I tried to appear naturally nonplussed for me to avoid blowing the whistles. And so, I heard his side to give me a balance overview.He narrated his side of the story, that he felt out of love, learned they are not meant to be, that she has taken all for nothing. I’m familiar with this pseudo alibi. I feigned my emotion while I was giving him an advise., that if he chooses the path he is taking now,he must be happy with it and after the madness is over he'll wake up finding the real happiness that's meant for him is his family. He is currently blinded by his feelings. then he went offline after. He'll keep me posted .(he said).--end.


Fact: they are not officially married..:)


Being married for almost ten years we encountered several trifles, insurmountable sometimes, but in the end we still find being together. Men usually come up with alibis even from their doting consorts., and women who falls on their trap, are just worthless as they are I supposed. They justify the superficial emotions with this and that, and in reality, it’s never really going to work anyway. Ironically, they come from dysfunctional families, and all I thought they wanted in their life is ruin others too.


Fact: Men always come back to their wives (anyway) ... at least in the Philippines

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